She teaches me : Marriage

Nisha asked about my work profile..But i don't want to start with work profiles, pay packages and future plans (after all we have to eat chappati only yaar!! so why these boring talks!!).
But it is first question (about the work profile and package of her husband) which comes in the mind of any girl who wish to settle down.

I replied here as am answering for a job interview, "Nisha, I am working as a Consultant. I am working in Strategic Management and Process Development for Infrastructure development in Asian Countries".

I know that she is working in a IT Company as SSE (Senior Software Engineer), but i am least interested in knowing her work profile or to tell about my work. I Just want to know her. Further, I enquired her, "Have seen ma profile??". I just wanted to know whether she has seen my mail or not. Whether she like's my profile and Snaps.

Nisha replied, "Yes, i have seen your mail. So you are a writer also.. nice to see that!!" she giggled. Then our conversation started its pace. I don't know how the time passes, but we talked about an hour. We both shared our family information.She shared with me about her work-profile (which i am least interested now!), about her company, hobbies and few college time experiences.


She is an ardent follower of Art of Living. She has deep faith in God (I too have!!) and she believes that every thing that happens is destine to happen, we are just the medium for that incident to happen (But i don't know, i believe this belief or not!!).

The lovable and interesting question she asked, "Raj! Why are you getting married, what marriage mean to you?".

It is the question which i have not think about, I am searching for my partner because i want to make my life more wonderful and more lovable. I think, it is most suitable age to get married that is why i am planning to get married. I said hesitantly and frankly, "Nishaaa..I want a life partner who can make my life and my family members life more lovable. Whose problems are mine and mine are hers!! (it is filmy dialogue, but it is the only best i  can say at that time!!) "

I replied but i know it is not the exact answer to the question she asked. I wanted to know what she think for marriage. I asked her,"Nisha what marriage mean to you!!".

She stopped for a while and answered, "Raj!! Marriage for me means the union of two souls. In fact it is a mutual agreement of two families in which a  male and a female agreed to set an organisation. Marriage means having a person, with whom you want to share your journey ahead. It means that till now i have enjoyed my journey alone. Now i want someone which is called as better half, with whom i want to share and enjoy my life ahead.". she stops and breathe deeply.

I am amazed to know the real meaning and her deep thinking. I remain quite. she cheered me up, "Hello!! Raj, cheer up, i think so but i am not a philosopher.Do be afraid..hahah"

I am impressed to know her views. She has given me different dimension over the institution of Marriage. "Thanks Nisha!, for letting me know your wonderful views",I said thankfully to her.

Her door bell rang and she said, "I think neha, my roomie has come. It is pleasant to talk to you.. I'll talk to you, later". I wished that we may continue more but her roommate has come. I said happily dis heartily, "It is fine Nisha, It is pleasant to talk to you, see you later!!".

"Chalo then bbye and take care", she close the conversation sweetly

"Ya, you too take care. Bbye and gud nite", I said with the hope to see her soon.

What I DO??

 I asked, "Hello!! Is this Nisha??".

 A soft and gentle voice speaks, "May, I know who is this speaking?".

 She is living in Mumbai. I can hear different voices from her side which also travels along with her  sweet voice to my ears. Her TV  may be on (A TV serial "Bade Ache lagte hoin", sound is coming from the background) and her apartment may be on road side (i can hear a traffic voice...bus horns etc also). 

"Ahem, Hi  I am Raj, Raaaaa..aaj Gupta from Delhi", I clear my throat.

She speaks lightly, "Raj..?? Oh! I got it..Ya !! How are you ??". 

I am glad to know that now i don't have to give her my basic introduction. "I am fine, Thank you!! How are you Nisha?", I asked formally (I tell you, it is the worst thing to do..but you have to be formal and it is obvious, if one is speaking in a light mood.. Offcourse!! one is fine. But still i have to ask). 

"I am also fine Raj. Yesterday Pa. has informed me about you",She said.

"Yup! My Ma has called me and informed me about the permission to talk you , I mean officially..", I said  cozily (It is not a big deal to talk to girl. but official conversation, i mean when families are involved it is huge task, Believe me!!). 

In order to make the initial of conversation warm (it is a warm up session, hehe..), i said, "So Nisha! How the things are moving ahead. Howz Mumbai and your Mumbai life." 

She is alone in the room, i can heard only TV sound and no other human voice (she lives in an apartment with her friend). 

"Raj, things are moving smooth. Mumbai is always cool and my life is also cool these days", she said satisfactorily. It seems like she is full of life and her voice is so heartening that i will love to record her voice. "How your life is  moving?? You are in Hyderabad Na?" She asked interestingly.

I am working in Hyderabad and living alone in my apartment with my loneliness. I wish many things at the start of day but end-up doing only fewest of few things at the end of day.

"The life here also pretty cool Nisha. Ya! i am in hyderabad..the city  of Nawabs..have you been here ever kya??" I ask her. 

"Nay!Never been there..waisey what is your work profile Raj?", she asked perplexedly.

Says "Hello"

Came from the office after a hectic schedule, it is 6:30, getting dusk. I am drench in rain water. It is raining outside. On the way, there is NO traffice jam (Heavy traffic jams are being found on Delhi roads even after the light shower). So i enjoyed my driving. On the way, i could smell the earth, the pleasant and light smell of mud filling my nostrils and re-charging my neurons.

The drainage of roads is so efficient that water drains well from the roads. I parked my car at Raju Tea-stall and enjoyed the KADAK tea with rain under the tree (it is stress reliving tea of Rs. 2/- only, which i love most).  The clouds are thundering and i have reached my room. I changed my clothes (it is a worse thing to do after playing in rain). My mobile reminder rang, "Call Nisha". "Oh!! i have to talk to her, i forgot, Shit!".

I clear my throat (i am not nervous though, just to have the effective voice). I sit on sofa (make myself comfortable, i am not nervous though!!). I look at her number written on paper lying on table in front of sofa. (Everything is found in its same position at every corner of my room, even after 10 days..hehe.). I feed the number and just dial. Before the dial tone may come, cancel the call  (Heard the voice coming from the window behind the sofa..Get up and close the window. I am not nervous heheh..). Open the tubelight and comfortably sat on the sofa (I am not nervous though..heheh, it is not tough to talk a girl. but tough to talk someone you don't know and know that this may be your life partner).

I am now relaxed. Hold the mobile and click on "menu" of mobile. Click on "Dialled Numbers" and dial the first number dialed recently and dial her number. A female voice appeared, "Dial number is out of coverage area. Please dial after some time.". I feel anxious, "uff, why her number is not getting dialed". I dial her number again, the voice heard, "Tring, Tring". Yes, her mobile is ringing. Feel more excited and anxious. Someone pick up the pick. It is the female voice. It says, "Hello!!". I asked, "Hello!! Is this Nisha??"

I Met her??

"Hello Raj!! How are you?", a soft voice reaches to my ear. The air is fresh and cool. The sun is getting sleep under the blanket of sea. The sea waves are dancing, playing and singing. The sea shows its affection and open up its arms towards me. These sea waves comes towards me to hug me. But i  am waiting for someone and stop myself to hug these waves. "Is this Raj??", a melliflous  voice, assuring its presence again questioned me.

I look back and see, a girl standing in green suit. Her eyes are as deep as sea. Her lips are as red as rose. Her face is as simple as moon. The wind touching her body is bringing the fragrance of hers' towards me. She is the one i see in the snap yesterday. She is the one in whose eyes' i get lost yesterday. I know this face and I know that i know her name. Yes, this is Nisha.

It is my first Proposal girl. I am here to meet her. She is here to meet me. We are here to know each other. I don't know  it is real or it is dream. I want to give myself a pinch. But i cannot move my hand.

"Tring, Tring!!", my mobile rang, now i can move my hand. My hands are out of the quilt. "Mom calling!!", Mobile says. I open my eyes and pick up the call, "Hello raj!! why you are not picking phone beta!!", Mom asked. I came to reality and said, "I am sleeping Ma!! Today is sunday..Office is off. Aaj to soney do". She said, "I had talked with Mr. Aggarwal. You may talk Nisha today in the evening." I came to know that what i  saw was the dream, what today i will do, will be the reality. Now i have to wait by evening to get my dream true..

Yes, I liked her!!

A two-page bio-data opens up stating from her family history (which i care least!!) to her hobbies, education, height and  work profile.. She is working as SAP Consultant in a renowned MNC with a hefty package. Nisha's hobbies  ranges from horse ridding, car driving, sky diving to travelling, reading.etc ..I am a big foddie and i wish to know about her cooking skills...which is totally absent from her Biodata..
My eyeballs roll down twice, no thrice , no four times, no but atleast more than ten times on her bio-data and snaps..Her profile is adoring and i liked her profile very much. I wish, i can meet this girl and to have the date with her (which every guy wants to have with her would be, before marriage) . But she looks no better than my first girl friend (it was heartbreaking  break-off).
She has done engineering from a NIT and working since 2008. She knew french, German (i know hinglish only..).. I liked her profile, and wish to meet her. I called up My Mom, "Hello Ma!! H ru,.
 "Main teek hoin beta..how you like the profile??", Mom asked.
I said un-interestingly (but i am interested  deeply..hehe), "Which profile Ma..Haa that which you have asked me to see..i have seen the profile..i think it is O.K.".
Mom asked excitedly, "So when you are coming here at Delhi (now my homeplace)?.We are planning to visit her home"
I don't want to meet her in typical indian style, going with a group of people and making both of us uncomfortable (i feel the girl and boy should feel comfortable and confident before deciding their better half).
I don't want to visit her home without knowing Nisha, I asked straightforwardly (which i dare to say with my mom!!), "I want to talk to her over phone". Mom is shocked to know (she consider me a shy baby !! which is true), "Raj beta what are you saying!!". Teek hain let me talk to her parents over this.." .
I assure mom , "Ma!! you know na, if our thinking do not match then there is no need to see her at her home"

(I hope she will now consider me, as mature beta and not mama's boy..hehe)

My first Marriage Adoration

Today, in the evening after coming back from office (as usual boring office..), i sat on my reading table and put my lappy on and connect to internet with dial up connection. I logon to my gmail account. The first unread mail with the subject "Matrimonial alliance". A huge smile got on to my face,"Chalo dektey hain, is she my dream girl (waisey i am still confuse whether she exist or not)". As the mail was clicked, light off, no power back up and internet was disconneted,"uff! iskko bhi abhi disconnect hona tha".

I feel more excited and anxious.. where there is a will there is a way,i had a reliance data card (Karlo duniya mutti main..heheh)..i just plug it and get my gmail account signed in.. I opened my first matrimonial alliance .. it is  addressed by the brother of the bride...He has forwarded the Biodata and snap of Nisha (the name i love most...). Downloaded the attachment and hurriedly unzip the downloaded zipped attachment. It has a biodata and two photographs of the bride..

I enthusiastically open  up the photographs to see what my destiny has imbibed in this folder..The photo opens up .. and a pretty face with huge eyes get lived on my lappy's screen. She has lovable eyes..sharp nose and no doubt captivating personality..She has small hairs and black eyes..very deep which are full with life..(It took me 5 mins to get back to reality from her eyes..). She is standing in pink saree ...(girls look pretty in pink)..i love to see her again and again...

I opened up her second photo...it is more lovely than previous one..she looks decent and admirable and nevertheless a winning trophy for a guy like me..In this photo she is wearing a green suit (Girls look much prettier in suits than saree).i fell in love with her photos. It took me 15 minutes to move and look what her biodata states..(Boy love girls but when it comes to marriage you have to be a man than to be a boy)..

The Journey Begins

Nevertheless, the three option i have discussed before, all are the important (after all i consider this as a mega project..). Therefore to start with , my journey begins with Option -1 i.e. A Rishta bang at my home. A Bio -data is being forwarded to me after the approval of my family member.(After all , they are the first one to see a bio-data and snaps of the proposal approached them.). The girl hails from delhi... she has  graduated from a premier engineering college and pursing the job in IT. Family background is good (which do not matter to me much, it is the purview of my family members).. Since i do not live with my family members (which i missed most..). I gotta call from my mom today, "Biodata and photo of Nisha (not real name, but i love this name) have been mailed at your E-mail. We have match your kundli - it match..tell me by tommorrow.. how u like her..". Now the ball is my court. let us see hwz my first proposal girl..

Search kaisey karuuu

Search kya karu.. kaisey karu.. it is understood that searching a bride for yourself in India is not an easy task. Here talking about your marriage in sub urban and town areas is still consider a crime!! And i dare to commit this crime..(hehehe...). In this internet age, there are three mode of searching..one,  physically someone bang at your door with some rishta..(usually this type of proposal comes from relative's or neighbour's help..). Second, a rishta will come in hardcopy (i.e. by news paper adverstisement..dekho humey ek sundar susheel bahu ki talash hain) and third but not the least matrimonial site (it is not better than any bakwaas social networking site..). Every mode of search has its prons and crons (here i have to opt out of three ..but i really tell you they all are not so interesting to work with them). I am still in thought ki search kaisey karuuuuuuuuu...

Search Kya Karu

Hi here is Raj. I am a small town guy who started his journey seeing the dreams of America. Have been to different countries but never been to United states. Being awarded with Bachelor of Technology (But i tell you there is no technology that i have mastered) from a typical government Engineering College of India. It is the only tag for which i am still earning, there is nothing special about me. Now after crossing the age of 27, i want a change and stability in life...( i am not sure why it is said marriage bring stability in life!!). Since my parents and well wishers are more concern about it than me (i.e my marriage). I have taken the initiative to begin my search on my own..( i don't want typical indian TV serial soap girl and also not typical MBAs type one)..it is because i don't want the proposal to be on my table before i make my mind (it is harsh to reject any girl and more painful to get rejected by anyone hehehe..). Now since the process of rejection and selection may not get into other's hand (which i tried to control..hmmmm).. i have started my journey.. lekin ab search kya karuuuuuuuuuu..